Time for Change 

Time for Change 

This morning, I started thinking about all the things that I have deliberately changed, since last summer. When my relationshit really started fizzling out, I had an overwhelming urge to makeover my flat. Like a deep cleanse. Out with the old and in with the new. I...

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It’s a syn…….or is it?

It’s a syn…….or is it?

For most of my adult life, I have dieted. I started at about age 17 by joining Weight Watchers and lost about 3.5 stone. For the first time in my life, I was slim. For about a month. And then it started creeping back on again. I've tried everything. Except the cabbage...

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The Miracle Milestone 

The Miracle Milestone 

This weekend is a special weekend. This weekend, I hit 120 days sober. That’s 4 whole massive months since a drop of alcohol passed my lips. It’s 120 nights of proper sleep and 120 mornings of not feeling like death. When I decided to go Sober For 2017, I read several...

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The Boy

The Boy

In November 2015, one of the best things ever happened to me. My little nephew was born. I don't have children so imagine my joy when the cutest, happiest, funniest little creature came into the world and stole my heart. For the first year of his life, I was drinking....

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Memories ❤️

Memories ❤️

This weekend, my friend and I were talking about the good old times, of drunken nights gone by. For example, when we went to the pub for a 'quick one' after work. After putting the world to rights, her with a bottle of Prosecco, me with a bottle of the finest red, we...

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The Soberfish Story

The Soberfish Story

I've been asked several times this week about my story, about why I've given up alcohol, about my 'breaking point' and about how I gave up. I've touched on my story in some of my earlier blogs .. I've always had 'an addictive personality'. This actually translates...

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The Grown Up Awkward Teenager

The Grown Up Awkward Teenager

One of the parts of soberdom that I am still not finding easy, is partying in large numbers. I appear to be able to do anything that revolves around food (nothing new there) but really struggle when drinking is the main focus. This week, I've been thinking a lot about...

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‘We become what we repeatedly do’

‘We become what we repeatedly do’

Humans are habitual. Fact. We like repetition and we all have addictions. We especially like doing things that are bad for us and love to indulge in modern day poisons! Why can't we turn our habits  around and be addicted to the good stuff?! It's rare to be...

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Definition of an alcoholic

Definition of an alcoholic

It's quite interesting what people think an alcoholic is. The age old description is someone who drinks in the morning or someone who 'has the shakes'. Or someone who drinks out of a brown paper bag to hide their habit. I mean really? Even that would cost you an extra...

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Drunk in Love

Drunk in Love

'They' say that you can't truly love somebody until you truly love yourself. I'm not sure that is exactly true. I have been in love and still hated myself inside. Sometimes I think it is far easier to love someone else and deflect attention away from yourself. ...

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Rule Number 1 : Love Yourself

Rule Number 1 : Love Yourself

It's hard to say exactly when it all went so wrong. Like most people, I was aware of alcohol at a young age. My parents and their friends drank; we were allowed a sip of beer or wine on special occasions.  As a teenager, it was always drink to excess. I think we...

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Everything in moderation?

Everything in moderation?

I don't know if it's just because I'm sober but alcohol seems to be everywhere I look at the moment. Social media is rife with the 'celebration' of Dry January being completed, the invention of 'Smashed Saturday' to glorify getting annihilated and now the build up to...

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The Loop

The Loop

Mine went something like this. Feel fat. This makes me unhappy and be less confident. Have a drink. Loaded with calories. Smoke. Have too many drinks. Loaded with calories. Smoke. Believe I'm more confident. Drunk text. Sleep badly. Wake up. Feel bad and less...

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Missing: Off Switch

Missing: Off Switch

So many people, like me, think they don't have an 'off switch'. In fact, I thought I didn't have one for most of my life. This leads to proper bingeing. It could be from devouring a whole packet of biscuits in one sitting or smoking a whole packet of cigarettes or...

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@soberfishie

@soberfishie

When the idea came to me to go sober for a year, I never imagined just how amazing it would be in so many ways. I mean, yeah, it would be great not to have at least 104 hangovers a year (and the rest), and yeah, it would be great to hopefully lose some weight (yes...

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FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

Us Brits. We like to reward ourselves. Everything we do is because we deserve it. Whether it's buying those shoes or eating that takeaway or drinking that drink.  We drink to celebrate, to commiserate, because we're going on holiday, when we're on holiday because...

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The Demise of the Party Animal

The Demise of the Party Animal

I've always been a party animal. I used to like nothing better than getting together with my friends and getting hammered. It wasn't always intentional but was inevitable. I don't know many people that I could meet 'for one' and it would literally be just that. One...

read more
Happy? New Year

Happy? New Year

What a week! It's amazing how much can change in 7 days and how much this challenge is teaching me. I've baked two desserts (unheard of), lost and gained friends, said no when the drunk me would've most definitely said yes, bought my body weight in Elderflower based...

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Year posted

Year posted

The Soberfish Story

The Soberfish Story

I've been asked several times this week about my story, about why I've given up alcohol, about my 'breaking point' and about how I gave up. I've touched on my story in some of my earlier blogs .. I've always had 'an addictive personality'. This actually translates...

The Grown Up Awkward Teenager

The Grown Up Awkward Teenager

One of the parts of soberdom that I am still not finding easy, is partying in large numbers. I appear to be able to do anything that revolves around food (nothing new there) but really struggle when drinking is the main focus. This week, I've been thinking a lot about...

‘We become what we repeatedly do’

‘We become what we repeatedly do’

Humans are habitual. Fact. We like repetition and we all have addictions. We especially like doing things that are bad for us and love to indulge in modern day poisons! Why can't we turn our habits  around and be addicted to the good stuff?! It's rare to be...

Definition of an alcoholic

Definition of an alcoholic

It's quite interesting what people think an alcoholic is. The age old description is someone who drinks in the morning or someone who 'has the shakes'. Or someone who drinks out of a brown paper bag to hide their habit. I mean really? Even that would cost you an extra...

Drunk in Love

Drunk in Love

'They' say that you can't truly love somebody until you truly love yourself. I'm not sure that is exactly true. I have been in love and still hated myself inside. Sometimes I think it is far easier to love someone else and deflect attention away from yourself. ...

Rule Number 1 : Love Yourself

Rule Number 1 : Love Yourself

It's hard to say exactly when it all went so wrong. Like most people, I was aware of alcohol at a young age. My parents and their friends drank; we were allowed a sip of beer or wine on special occasions.  As a teenager, it was always drink to excess. I think we...

Everything in moderation?

Everything in moderation?

I don't know if it's just because I'm sober but alcohol seems to be everywhere I look at the moment. Social media is rife with the 'celebration' of Dry January being completed, the invention of 'Smashed Saturday' to glorify getting annihilated and now the build up to...

The Loop

The Loop

Mine went something like this. Feel fat. This makes me unhappy and be less confident. Have a drink. Loaded with calories. Smoke. Have too many drinks. Loaded with calories. Smoke. Believe I'm more confident. Drunk text. Sleep badly. Wake up. Feel bad and less...

Missing: Off Switch

Missing: Off Switch

So many people, like me, think they don't have an 'off switch'. In fact, I thought I didn't have one for most of my life. This leads to proper bingeing. It could be from devouring a whole packet of biscuits in one sitting or smoking a whole packet of cigarettes or...

@soberfishie

@soberfishie

When the idea came to me to go sober for a year, I never imagined just how amazing it would be in so many ways. I mean, yeah, it would be great not to have at least 104 hangovers a year (and the rest), and yeah, it would be great to hopefully lose some weight (yes...

FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

Us Brits. We like to reward ourselves. Everything we do is because we deserve it. Whether it's buying those shoes or eating that takeaway or drinking that drink.  We drink to celebrate, to commiserate, because we're going on holiday, when we're on holiday because...

The Demise of the Party Animal

The Demise of the Party Animal

I've always been a party animal. I used to like nothing better than getting together with my friends and getting hammered. It wasn't always intentional but was inevitable. I don't know many people that I could meet 'for one' and it would literally be just that. One...

Happy? New Year

Happy? New Year

What a week! It's amazing how much can change in 7 days and how much this challenge is teaching me. I've baked two desserts (unheard of), lost and gained friends, said no when the drunk me would've most definitely said yes, bought my body weight in Elderflower based...

‘Tis the season to be …

‘Tis the season to be …

I've done it! I've actually survived what I consider to be one of the biggest boozing weekends of the year, totally and utterly stone cold sober! What a great reason to celebrate with .. a large Elderflower Presse! And how do I feel? I feel happy, clear headed, well...

Why oh why oh why

Why oh why oh why

So, the question on everyone's lips is 'why'? Why on Earth would you give up wine? Why would you start before New Year? Why would you put that kind of pressure on yourself? Why can't you just cut down? Why a year? The idea came to me when I saw on article on Facebook...

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